This post is excerpted from Joan Kennedy’s Positive Support Letter 1996:

There is a Native American fable about a youth who took an egg from an eagle’s nest and put it in a chicken yard. The egg hatched and the eagle grew up among the chickens, pecking in the ground for food just as they did, scratching in the dust as he watched the others do.

One day he looked up and saw an eagle flying high above him.

He felt his wings tremble and said to one of the chickens, “I wish I could do that.”

“Don’t be a fool,” the chicken said. “Only an eagle can fly so high.”

Feeling ashamed of his longing, the eagle went back to scratching in the dirt — never again to question what he believed to be his assigned place on earth.


What if the eagle had refused to allow someone else to define his potential? Suppose he had sensed his uniqueness, broke free, opened his powerful wings, and soared into the heavens?

Ask yourself the question: “Do I allow others to define my potential, or determine what is possible for me?”

When we put limitations on ourselves, we don’t allow ourselves into the boundless realm of creative thought, where we can envision a wonderful experience, a better job, a larger income. Our pattern of thought binds us to lives of limitation and mediocrity.

Before any real change can take place in your life, you need to search within yourself, become aware of who you are and of what is possible. You will never know who you really are until you deal with the person you think you are.

It’s all a matter of perception.

It’s an accepted fact that the limitations we feel, the goals we set for ourselves, our whole approach to life, is strongly influenced by the image we have of ourselves. And so, before you can take your rightful place, you must alter the perception you have of yourself because anything you deeply believe in, is your truth.

To change yourself or your conditions, change your beliefs about them. You can begin to acquire a high self-image when you accept your strengths as well as your weaknesses. Creating a new self-image will release your talents and abilities. With a high regard for yourself, not only will you feel more confident, but you will feel free to be yourself…and to express yourself totally.

In Gary Zukav’s book on the subject of new physics, The Dancing Wu Li Masters, he says,

“Reality is what we take to be true. What we take to be true is what we believe. What we believe is based upon our perceptions. What we perceive depends upon what we think. What we think depends upon what we perceive. What we perceive determines what we believe. What we believe determines what we take to be true. What we take to be true is our reality.”

We need to always be aware of what we believe to be true, because through our beliefs, our reality is formed.

Remember, the moment you alter your perception of yourself and your future, both you and your future begin to change.

P.S. “If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” –Thomas A. Edison



If you missed the talk and book signing at the Marsh, here’s the first in a series of video clips from that wonderful night.

Our first clip features Nadia Giordana speaking on reinventing her own new chapters. Click on Nadia’s name to see more about her work.


By Joan Kennedy

We’ve all had inspired moments when we clearly see how we can do certain things, but we don’t believe in ourselves or in our ideas enough to make them a reality.

Then, sooner or later, someone else comes along with no more ability or background and does the very thing we had envisioned for ourselves.

One of our main problems is our fear of criticism.

Fear of criticism can bring on a lack of initiative and a lack of ambition, not to mention an inferiority complex! That fear creates a whopping feeling of self-doubt.

Fear  of  criticism is one of the most damaging emotions we can encounter in the pursuit of  our dreams.

On the other hand, when we actually have approval we gain confidence and this strengthens our belief in ourselves. How many dreams perish because we don’t get the needed approval?

The approval of others makes us feel good and seems to validate our decisions and abilities. We get caught up in pleasing because of our dependence on positive feedback.

Conversely, many people never set high goals because they anticipate what friends and relatives will say:

“You don’t have the background.”

“It’s been done.”

“Don’t be ridiculous.”

“It won’t work.”

When you start thinking that other people just may be right, you start making adjustments in your plans. The more people you talk to, the more adjustments you make.

You will never please everyone. So why try?

It takes courage to break away from negative thinking of those around us and to proceed despite the negative opinions of others.

An enormous amount of talent is lost to the world for want of a little courage. When you have faith in yourself, your abilities and talents, you can pursue your dreams. But as soon as you start doubting , you’ll experience set-backs and problems.

There are three important points that will help you in the pursuit of your dreams:

  • Know and have confidence in your own talents and potential
  • Attempt the seemingly impossible – Dare
  • Persist courageously in the face of obstacles

Remember, no one has better ideas for your life than you do!

What will you dare to do in the next week?